With more than three years of marriage under my belt, you’d think I’d have a strong grasp on how to do marriage right. But, to be honest, I battle with selfish wants that get in the way of making decisions that will improve my marriage. My words and actions frequently portray me as a solo partner when, in fact, God brought my wife and me together to complement our strengths while filling in the gaps of each other’s deficiencies. It’s worth battling for the life we’ve established together. Understanding what God desires in a Christian marriage is worth the effort and time it takes. And since I can only alter myself, I’ve decided to concentrate on becoming a good husband.
On the other hand, this material is not intended for women who are subjected to verbal, mental, or physical violence. Abuse has nothing to do with a woman’s spirituality or lack thereof. An abusive spouse has a psychological problem that necessitates expert help. Instead, this post is for the woman who aspires to love her spouse because she wants to live a life that honours God. It’s for the woman who, despite waking up on the wrong side of the bed, understands she wants to make a difference in her marriage and at home. It’s for the woman who’s married life is full of “iron sharpening iron” moments. It’s for the woman who understands that she can’t go through life without God’s power at work within her.
What is Godliness?
Godliness is a description rather than a role. Whether we are a wife, friend, mother, sister, employer, or employee, we may be godly. It’s a virtue that Paul encourages us to pursue, as well as something that God reveals through the person. Godliness is a reverent response to God’s holiness that guides our attitudes in all areas of life. An attitude, not a feeling, is a point of view. Even if we are having a horrible day, we should maintain a good attitude about our partnerships. We can enjoy pleasant days while harbouring a negative outlook. Our attitudes toward godliness must be founded on our understanding of God’s holiness and place in our lives.
Righteousness, holiness, faith, love, endurance, and gentleness are all virtues that God encourages us to pursue. These qualities interact to help us develop Christ-like attitudes and responses to our situations. When it comes to understanding something, it’s sometimes useful to look at what it’s opposed to. Paul lays out a number of competing viewpoints that keep us from growing in godliness. These include an unhealthy interest in word fights, jealously, spiteful talk, strife, ill suspicions, and interpersonal friction, as well as the assumption that godliness is a way to financial gain.
Blessings come from godliness, but not always in the manner that can be quantified. Pursuing godliness requires us to do a different dance step than the rest of the world. As Paul reminds us in his second epistle to Timothy, these decisions expose us to persecution. Despite the possibility of persecution, Paul exhorts Timothy to continue in godliness and to live a life that is completely committed to Christ. We can live for ourselves in this one life, or we can live for Christ, where we lose our lives to gain so much more. Let us pursue godliness at any costs.
Spiritual development continues. Faith, goodness, wisdom, self-control, perseverance, godliness, brotherly kindness, and love are all added to our faith. As we grow in our knowledge of God, each of these characteristics accumulates in greater quantity. Spiritual development requires a lifetime of accomplishments and disappointments, but through the power of God’s redemption in our lives, we can rise again. Godliness pervades every aspect of our lives and has an impact on every function we play.
What Does Being a Godly Wife entail? How to Be a Godly Wife?
With her words and actions, a Christian woman wants to honour God. “Search me, God, and see what is in my heart; test me and see what is in my anxious thoughts. Look into my heart to see if there is any offensive way in me, and then lead me in the way that is everlasting.” We learn to control our impatient answers to situations that arise in marriage if we realise that what we say and how we behave is for God’s honour. We allow God to have his way in our lives and in our relationships when we pursue godliness as a means of discipleship. Honoring God comes first, then honouring others, especially our husband.
A Christian wife adores and cherishes her husband. Love can be a sensation, but it’s more often a choice we make. The book of 1 Corinthians has a list of what love entails. It is patient, compassionate, affirming, and joyful. It thinks about others first. People and things in the world beyond our families can hurt and wear us down. However, if we can reassure our husbands that we have his back, our homes become safe havens. That isn’t to say that we don’t handle difficult issues between husband and wife; rather, we do so out of love, for the sake of one other and the marriage.
A Christian lady discovers the meaning of submission. “Submit to one another out of regard for God” is fulfilled by both husband and wife. This suggests that submission is reciprocal and that one’s rights are surrendered, but as we read on, husbands and wives exhibit it in different ways. Husbands show their submission to their spouses by denying themselves and honoring them. Wives show their obedience by respectfully following their husband’s leadership. To submit to one another, everyone requires the Lord’s strength and power.
A virtuous wife accepts the Lord’s gentleness. Apart from sin, one of the consequences of man’s fall in the Garden of Eden is the strife that arises between husband and wife. Women can be sassy and use words to keep their husband from being the man of God he was supposed to be. When we allow God to gently us from the inside out, our hearts soften toward our husband, and we see him through God’s eyes instead of our own. One of a godly wife’s greatest assets is a gentle heart toward God.
A godly wife is a woman who walks in forgiveness. Because women are more sensitive to emotional connections in relationships, what appear to be thoughtless comments or behaviours by our spouses can damage our feelings. We might recall how much God forgives us and show our spouse the same grace. Marriage is the coming together of a man and a woman as individuals to form a unique kind of oneness that reflects God’s heart to the world. Offenses grow larger and become irritants that fester if they are not forgiven. God can grow both husband and wife if we live our lives resolved to forgive.
A Christian wife develops the ability to trust God. Proverbs 31 describes an amazing woman. Not only does this superwoman take care of the outside world, but she also works on her own personal development. “She is dressed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come,” says verse 25. Imagine how much faith she has in God if she can face the unknown of tomorrow with a smile. We are aware that life is full with adversity and disappointment. God, on the other hand, calls us to trust him, and a godly wife learns to trust him no matter what hardships her marriage faces.
Verses about a Godly Wife
“A wife of noble character is her husband’s crown, but a disgraceful wife is like decay in his bones” (Proverbs 12:4 NIV).
“He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord” (Proverbs 18:22 NIV).
“Houses and wealth are inherited from parents, but a prudent wife is from the Lord” (Proverbs 19:14 NIV).
“A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies” (Proverbs 31:10 NIV).
“However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband” (Ephesians 5:33 NIV).
“Wives, in the same way be submissive [the function for orderly home] to your husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence [moral purity that springs from reverence for God] of your lives” (1 Peter 3:1 NIV).
Why is a wife’s godliness important to God?
God is concerned about the piety of a wife because he is concerned about her as a whole person. Internal heartaches, hidden dreams, shortcomings, and strengths are all taken care of by him. He desires to sanctify us, not just to save us from a life apart from him, but also to represent him to everyone around us, especially our family. Another reason God is concerned in a wife’s godliness is that he is concerned about the body of believers, that he wishes harmony in society, and that he has written down his ideas on the subject.
Being godly is a lifelong process that encompasses all of our responsibilities, including our roles as wives. It’s a goal we’re pursuing with zeal and dedication. It influences how we respond to the people in our lives.