When you’ve made your fair share of mistakes in previous relationships, it’s likely that you’ve learned what relationship norms exist and are doing your best to follow them. But, let’s be honest, it’s not going to happen. Most of these pieces of advice are out of date and don’t apply to all situations, so it’s best to toss them to the curb.
1. The friendship should be stronger
While it’s true that best friends are the first people you turn to for help when you’re in crisis, best friends don’t f*ck with each other. Stick to being his girlfriend solely unless you’re okay with not being able to sext and have sex with your guy.
2. When it’s essential, give ultimatums.
Don’t be tricked into thinking that asking your significant other to choose between you and his mother, pal, puppy, or other things you believe are more important to him than you is the correct thing to do. Doing so will just force him to do something he doesn’t want to do, and he may dislike you as a result. Is that the kind of circumstance you’d like to be in?
3. Make him the move first, not you
Whether it’s in bed or in any other aspect of your relationship, the best rule to follow is that if you feel like doing something, don’t allow anything stop you. Don’t expect him to finish everything first every time.
4. Do not Plan Sex.
You should have sex with your guy whenever and wherever you want because YOLO. This concept is extremely appealing, but it quickly becomes too hot to bear as life unfolds. So, before you succumb to life’s inexorable sense of timing, set aside some time for some much-needed pillow chat and hugging.
5. Make it hard for him to get what he wants from you.
Because you should have sex with your guy whenever and wherever you want because YOLO. This concept is extremely appealing, but it quickly becomes too hot to bear as life unfolds. So, before you succumb to life’s inexorable sense of timing, set aside some time for some much-needed pillow chat and hugging.
Even the longest and most stable relationships have their share of petty and major disputes. That isn’t to say you should quarrel with your lover over every issue where your viewpoints differ. Fights can be taxing and exhausting, and they aren’t always as healthy as people believe. More significantly, there are considerably more effective and wiser solutions to your problems.
7. Do not sleep being angry.
Staying up late to work out your problems with your lover when you know you’re not in the best of moods isn’t a wise or mature decision. Instead, go to bed and sleep on it so you and your lover don’t have to deal with any extra stress or sleep deprivation. After a good night’s sleep, you’ll be astonished at how much wiser you’ll act.
8. Honesty is the Key.
For the sake of honesty, telling your lover that he’s a poor kisser or that you despise his wardrobe choices won’t help your relationship last. So, if you want to spend as much time with him as possible, keep in mind that no-holds-barred honesty should only apply to you and your pet.