5 most important things in a relationship.

5 important rules in relationship
5 important rules in relationship

Everyone deserves to be in a happy, healthy relationship, and with the proper partner at their side, this is very possible. Here are 5 essentials for maintaining a healthy relationship if you want to be that #relationshipgoals couple.

1. Respect Each Other

Listening to your partner (not just waiting for them to talk) and attempting to understand their point of view is an important approach to demonstrate respect in your relationship. Respect your partner’s choices and beliefs, even if you disagree about who should be the next president or whether you’re Team Kimye and they’re Team Taylor. Try not to encourage them to change their minds about things that matter to them, such as studying abroad for a semester or where they want to reside after graduation. Both parties in a healthy relationship will have mutual regard for one another. Simply because you don’t always agree doesn’t mean one of you has to change their views in order for your relationship to work.

Respect for your partner’s privacy and limits is another important aspect of establishing respect in a relationship. You don’t have the right to know everything your partner does or who they interact with. It also entails being aware of your partner’s feelings and refraining from doing things that may cause them significant pain, such as keeping things between you two that are supposed to be private. Knowing each other’s passcodes and earning the pink heart emoji next to their names in Snapchat aren’t indicators of a good relationship. While sharing those things is fine, healthy relationships necessitate some distance and a filter!

2. Communication is crucial

You’ve probably heard the overused phrase “communication is important.” But here’s the thing: there’s a reason it’s a cliché. One of the most critical parts of having a healthy relationship is good communication. It’s crucial to be able to talk about what you want and anticipate when starting a new relationship. This may include being open and honest about difficult topics, but if you’re in a healthy relationship, your spouse will be receptive and listen (and you should do the same). Being on the same page as your partner goes a long way, and it’s crucial to open up to your partner about what’s upsetting you, compromise over arguments, and appreciate each other.

While communication is essential, you should both be comfortable with the frequency with which you communicate with one another. It’s not good if your partner expects you to respond immediately and text them all day if you don’t want to. On the other hand, if your partner consistently ignores your texts and it makes you feel bad, it isn’t healthy either. It’s critical to strike a communication balance that you and your partner are both happy with.

3. Trust Each Other

This is a significant issue. Mutual and unrestrained trust between partners is required in all healthy partnerships. Regardless of what either partner has gone through in the past, such as a cheating ex or a parent’s divorce, your partner will trust you entirely in a healthy relationship. DO keep in mind that building trust in a relationship takes time (it seldom happens overnight!) and that when your spouse fully trusts you with their feelings, you should respect them and not betray their trust. It’s not right to cheat on someone or do things to make them envious. On the other hand, you should not be with your partner if you do not trust them.

DON’T allow your partner use their lack of trust or previous experiences to manipulate you, question you, or make you feel like you have to go out of your way to win their trust. Your relationship’s trust will naturally be strengthened by consistent affection, support, respect, and communication.

4. Support Each Other

Having a supportive partner who you know has your back is one of the nicest aspects of being in a healthy relationship. In a healthy relationship, you and your partner will support each other and treat each other as equals, whether it’s standing up for you when someone says something hurtful about you or always being the rock you can count on. Your companion will not use strategies to manipulate, control, or humiliate you. They will be protective of you, but not excessively so. They will encourage you to spend time with friends and family, work toward own objectives, and live a life separate from your partnership.

Supportive partners will always want the best for you and will not prevent you from accomplishing your goals. In a healthy relationship, you’ll feel like yourself and won’t feel obligated to alter or make significant compromises in order for the relationship to succeed.

5. Boundaries

We all have personal boundaries on what makes us feel good, comfortable, safe, etc. In a healthy relationship, you and we all have our own personal boundaries in terms of what makes us feel good, secure, and safe. You should feel 100 percent comfortable communicating such limits in a healthy relationship and trust that they will be respected (and vice versa for your partner). It’s fine if you just want to hang out three times a week; it’s also fine if you want to wait before getting personal; and it’s fine if you want to keep your Monday Funday night with the biffles.

Remember that setting personal limits in any relationship should not be a source of anxiety or fear. It’s also important to reevaluate your relationship if you feel that your spouse or friend is using limits to control you, such as instructing you not to hang out with friends or requiring you to share passwords.

What is unhealthy?

An unhealthy relationship is ultimately built on power and control rather than love and respect. If you believe your partner is employing strategies to control you, this is a major red flag, and you should get assistance. It is not necessary for your partner to physically harm you in order for your relationship to be abusive. It’s not good enough if your relationship is excellent most of the time yet unhealthy at times. There is never an excuse for abuse, and everyone deserves to be in a healthy relationship.

There are no excuses for abusive behaviour, even if you have a history of mental illness, cheating, or other difficulties in or outside of your current relationship. It’s also important to understand that you can’t choose your mate. If you’re in an abusive relationship, don’t wait for your partner to change before seeking help.